4 Ways to Ask Your Girlfriend for a Threesome

Is your sex routine with your woman getting a little…well, routine? Ever thought of spicing it up with a threesome?

Boredom happens to the best of us — you’re not alone! So, what’s the best way to go about it? And how do you go about it without ruining your relationship?

In truth, what works for some may not work for all. And also, threesomes aren’t for everyone. But hey, there’s no harm in asking. So here are a few ways to do just that:

 

1. Ask for a Threesome Without Assumptions

Don’t assume just because your GF has had a threesome before (maybe she told you), that she wants to try it again with you. It is possible that she had a less-than-stellar experience, and wants a more “traditional” sex life this time around.

Still, you can ask without expecting that she says yes, and without assuming she’ll be all into it. If you truly love and respect her, you will understand that she has the right to set just as many rules, boundaries, limitations and freedoms in the relationship as you do.

2. Ask If She’d Do It With Strangers or Very Loose Acquaintances

April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert on “Ask April,” recommends taking the single-strangers route.

“Choose someone who is very single,” she says. “You don’t want an angry boyfriend or husband finding out about this and coming after you later.”

In other words, never ask if she’d have a threesome with her best friends, or (hello!) her sister. That’s just bound to get you in serious trouble. Even on a night when she seems the readiest to party, the way to broach this topic is with extreme, extreme caution.

3. Ask When You Are Both Serious, Then Follow Up When You Are Both a Little Loose

Before the threesome, you may want to get a little drunk, but not crazy drunk. Try light cocktails for getting your partners in the mood. However, when actually asking her the first time around, the setting and her mood matter hugely.

Don’t ask her when she’s, say, on her period and feeling bitchy, or when you’re visiting your in-laws and she’s stressed. Take some time to get the setting and mood right. Try cooking a nice, healthy meal for her to show your love before pressing the question.

Then, gently ask, as sex educator Reid Mihalko suggests, “I want to have a threesome.” Be honest and clear, and let her know what’s on your mind.

4. Make a Game of It

Remember that scene in “Newness,” (available on Netflix), about dating apps and dating drama? Two good-looking people go into a club and start asking the other which one they’d do?

You can try this approach. When you are in a busy restaurant or club space with plenty of hot strangers, ask which one she’d take to bed. And ask her which one she wouldn’t mind you taking to bed — with her! At least, it could lead to more conversations about how much fun a threesome might be.

When she finally does agree, make sure you have decided on a place that you will both be comfortable having sex in. And if that is your bedroom, it better be sparkling!

A good relationship should have all the elements of fun, but also a hefty amount of maturity. When you feel that your woman is ready to experiment, hint at this threesome question, but never make her feel pressured.

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